Tuesday, February 6, 2018

resolution-ing in 2018 [4]

I just wanna go on more adventures.

Adventure led me to the ice, after dark. I went on my first real ice fishing excursion to an undisclosed location.....I think it was a test from my fearless guide to see if I would leak the secrets.....I'm gonna pass the test.

I was informed it was a slow night, but I was just excited to catch fish. No monsters, but I think I'm getting the hang of it.

I never understood ice fishing....lets put on every layer we own, go sit out on the ice and shiver for a few hours and call it fun.....well ice fishing doesn't have to be like that. I was outfitted with a chair, a heater blowing in my face, a hut roof over my head, a beer in one hand and a fishing rod in the other.I didn't even have to wear gloves most of the night. As the saying goes, "Don't knock it 'til ya try it."

And just like that it was 11:30 and we were packing up to head home. I couldn't believe how fast 6 hours just flew by. I found myself saying...."just one more, then we can go".....just one more.

Burbot are eel-like, predatory fish that were illegally introduced into southwest Wyoming waters. The look like a cross between a catfish and an eel, taste like lobster....known as "the poor man's lobster" and are posing a big risk to native fish throughout the Green River drainage.

Wednesday, January 17, 2018

resolution-ing in 2018 [3]

connect with good people.

Meeting people is easy.....in college. As I "grew up" and left the college scene I found it increasingly harder to meet people. Maybe its because just meeting acquaintances and calling them friends no longer served me. Maybe I started to crave the quality over quantity. Anyway, its been a lot harder to meet people that I would call my tribe. So while I thought this was a great goal for me for 2018, I was dreading how difficult it could be to actually accomplish this, and then I realized I was in the box. Why can't I just think outside the box? Not everything is black and white all the time. And so to jump right into the gray area.....this week I connected with Ronda Rousey. You probably don't believe me, but I did....in the gray area, even though there is nothing gray about her and her beliefs.

"I have been booed in thirty countries. I have been booed following UFC victories. I'm more used to being booed by a crowd than I am being cheered. I have never been a fan favorite. Pretty much my entire competitive career has been defined by people hoping to see me lose. In the UFC, I've embraced the role of the villain. I don't shy away from controversy. I don't hold back when it comes to speaking my mind. That doesn't always endear me to the masses. In a world that loves to root for the underdog, I'm always the favorite - and I always win." excerpt from NY Times Bestseller ROUSEY. 

I got this book in the mail on a Monday after work, I'd read half of it by bedtime.

Her strength, both physical and mental is empowering. I, in no dream world, would ever consider myself as big of a badass as her, but reading about her trials and tribulations, rising above the BS and creating an empire and a happy life left me feeling like I, too, could take on the world (not a UFC ring, but the world). The most surprising thing about Ronda? She cries. A lot.

A few of my favorite passages from her book: Night 1

"Do not accept less than what you're capable of."

"They don't award medals based on what you won before."

"Making a change in your life is as easy as making a decision and acting on it. That's it."

"People appreciate excellence no matter who you are."

A few of my favorite passages from her book: Night 2

"The only power people have over you is the power you give them."

"But you can't let other people affect your belief in yourself. They're going to tell you to be logical and be reasonable. They're going to say that because no one else has ever done something, that it can't be done. You have to be crazy enough to the believe that you are the one person in the history of the world who can create that change or accomplish that dream." 

"Some lessons have to be experienced to be learned."

"The hardest part is knowing when to walk away." 

connect with good people. connect with Ronda Rousey. 

Friday, January 12, 2018

resolution-ing in 2018 [2]

More writing and less checklist-ing is coming your way in 2018.

learn new positive things.

As I started brainstorming a few ideas of what these 4 short sentences might mean to me in 2018 and consequently what I could actually word-ize and put into a blog for you fine folks, I thought about what I wanted to learn in 2018.

I want to learn life lessons. More specifically, I want to remember those lessons which we all know and I frequently forget. To a fault I see good in people, even when they probably don't deserve it. There is no such thing as a second chance with me.....its usually drawn out to fourth and fifth chances. Unless you are really awful, then you're cut off at 2. Sorry. Not sorry.

So in order to relay my feelings on life lessons to you and to remind myself what I need to know to do this life thing, I hit the ole' Pinterest board.

I want to be a lover of life with endless opportunities, endless experiences and just make sure I squeeze out every last bit of awesomeness that I can. We never know when it might end and I never, ever want to have regrets! Will I have regrets? Yes, of course! But the goal remains to minimize regret and live life to the fullest! Living life to the fullest doesn't have to mean extravagant trips, spectacular nights or fancy dinners. Life seems the most full when I've woken up to fresh brewed coffee, spent a day with down-to-earth people being active and enjoying the world around me. If that day is topped off with a home grilled steak, an adult beverage and relaxation....well then, bonus points.

Instead of waiting for someone else to leave my gate open, I'd like to think I'm proactive in my life. When I first started my job, I was told "Take care of yourself because no one else is going to." While I was really disappointed in this realization (you know the whole thinking people are awesome all the time and all), but its true. Take the bull by the horns. Don't let life pass you by.

Its a fact. We make time for things that are important to us and sometimes those things are actual people. Don't let the want or need to be in someone's life blind you that maybe they don't give a rat's ass if you are in their life. Ouch.

And when you come to the realization that you are trying harder than the other person.....gently let go. Let go of what no longer serves you or makes you feel good, something better will fill the space. The unknown is scary. Change is scary. Trust that the best is yet to come. And if it isn't better....well there will be something to replace that too.


We all make 'em. It times we allow ourselves the forgiveness that most of us afford others. We can't be perfect and we are worth giving ourselves a second chance....or maybe a fourth or fifth.

And when nothing seems to be going right, keep on dreaming. The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.